This idea has been on my mind for a long time, a very long time. It's the kind of idea that haunts you with its beauty, though. I'm not sure if I can explain this, but I'll try my best to do so...
Let me start by saying that trying to understand all women is like trying to understand quantum physics. Whenever you think you've got it, you find out that you've failed. What works for one woman does not work for the other, and what works for one woman at one time may not work at other times. But that's not the complexity I'm discussing.. let me be more clear: a woman is complex on many levels: the mental level, the emotional level, and the spiritual level. There's also a special factor at hand that I like to call the femininity factor.
The first and most obvious of levels in a woman is the mental level. I wouldn't call this a measure of how 'smart' she is, because I believe that there's no single definition for 'smart'. I believe that one can be 'smart' in any given direction or field, such as maths, music, the arts, language, and everything in between. You're 'smart' in what you excel at, and that applies for both men and women. Thus, a woman's mental level is determined by what she excels in and what interests her the most; that which reaches her and excites her on the intellectual level.
The second level is the emotional level, the place which no man understands. I'm not going to explain this level, but rather how to react to the different emotions. It's a simple rule, I'm just stating the obvious: if they're happy, embrace their happiness with them. If they're not, ask them what's bothering them and sympathize with them. Offer to help them with your problems if you can. The problem is, sometimes a woman can change back between, say, three or four different emotions in a few minutes. That's problematic, but you just have to wait until she's calmed down and settled on one emotion.
The third level is the one where you shouldn't venture, but should act upon. The spiritual level defines a woman's beliefs in everything around her. You can't force a woman to believe in anything, but you can do actions that'd change her views regarding the world around her.
Now comes the femininity factor. While that may sound like a measure of how feminine a lady is, it's not that. This factor is a measure of how complex a woman is on all three levels. Some women are only strong on one or two of these levels. Others may be strong on all three levels, but prefer to hide one or more of them from other people. You have to dare and explore the woman's 'world' if you want to find out the true measure of the femininity factor; you'd be surprised how much of themselves they keep to themselves.
If you find a woman who excels on all three levels (and thusly has a high femininity factor), then you're in luck: you're in front of a woman who can, and probably will, lead the future in her respective field(s) of interest.
Now, the simple fact is, most, if not all, men are haunted by this complexity of women because they fear that they cannot understand it all. That's a point, but that's not how to look at it. Look at it the other way around: if you were to live with a woman who is completely understandable, imagine how boring your life would be. It'd be pointless, and you'd get bored of that woman and would start looking for others you don't know. So, my point is, women's complexity isn't scary.
Look at it like this: the complexity of a real woman is beautiful. A real woman is as complex as you want her to be, and then some. The point is not being able to understand her all the time, but letting her be able to understand you correctly. A woman should be a mirror for you conscience at all times; an opportunity for you to reflect on yourself in her. Unravel her secrets, explore her potential, let her bloom. That's the mark of a truly great woman: she blooms over time. That's because she's much more than a body. A woman is a free spirit, a living conscience, a blooming life. Women are the essence of the world.
So it's not all about liking, marrying and/or loving women. It's about embracing much more than what they are. It's about embracing who they are and growing into them and with them. So, to all of the women of all the different ages who have made a difference in my life, thank you. It is a pleasure to know you, and you will always be remembered.
God bless.
(:
Let me start by saying that trying to understand all women is like trying to understand quantum physics. Whenever you think you've got it, you find out that you've failed. What works for one woman does not work for the other, and what works for one woman at one time may not work at other times. But that's not the complexity I'm discussing.. let me be more clear: a woman is complex on many levels: the mental level, the emotional level, and the spiritual level. There's also a special factor at hand that I like to call the femininity factor.
The first and most obvious of levels in a woman is the mental level. I wouldn't call this a measure of how 'smart' she is, because I believe that there's no single definition for 'smart'. I believe that one can be 'smart' in any given direction or field, such as maths, music, the arts, language, and everything in between. You're 'smart' in what you excel at, and that applies for both men and women. Thus, a woman's mental level is determined by what she excels in and what interests her the most; that which reaches her and excites her on the intellectual level.
The second level is the emotional level, the place which no man understands. I'm not going to explain this level, but rather how to react to the different emotions. It's a simple rule, I'm just stating the obvious: if they're happy, embrace their happiness with them. If they're not, ask them what's bothering them and sympathize with them. Offer to help them with your problems if you can. The problem is, sometimes a woman can change back between, say, three or four different emotions in a few minutes. That's problematic, but you just have to wait until she's calmed down and settled on one emotion.
The third level is the one where you shouldn't venture, but should act upon. The spiritual level defines a woman's beliefs in everything around her. You can't force a woman to believe in anything, but you can do actions that'd change her views regarding the world around her.
Now comes the femininity factor. While that may sound like a measure of how feminine a lady is, it's not that. This factor is a measure of how complex a woman is on all three levels. Some women are only strong on one or two of these levels. Others may be strong on all three levels, but prefer to hide one or more of them from other people. You have to dare and explore the woman's 'world' if you want to find out the true measure of the femininity factor; you'd be surprised how much of themselves they keep to themselves.
If you find a woman who excels on all three levels (and thusly has a high femininity factor), then you're in luck: you're in front of a woman who can, and probably will, lead the future in her respective field(s) of interest.
Now, the simple fact is, most, if not all, men are haunted by this complexity of women because they fear that they cannot understand it all. That's a point, but that's not how to look at it. Look at it the other way around: if you were to live with a woman who is completely understandable, imagine how boring your life would be. It'd be pointless, and you'd get bored of that woman and would start looking for others you don't know. So, my point is, women's complexity isn't scary.
Look at it like this: the complexity of a real woman is beautiful. A real woman is as complex as you want her to be, and then some. The point is not being able to understand her all the time, but letting her be able to understand you correctly. A woman should be a mirror for you conscience at all times; an opportunity for you to reflect on yourself in her. Unravel her secrets, explore her potential, let her bloom. That's the mark of a truly great woman: she blooms over time. That's because she's much more than a body. A woman is a free spirit, a living conscience, a blooming life. Women are the essence of the world.
So it's not all about liking, marrying and/or loving women. It's about embracing much more than what they are. It's about embracing who they are and growing into them and with them. So, to all of the women of all the different ages who have made a difference in my life, thank you. It is a pleasure to know you, and you will always be remembered.
God bless.
(:
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